60 questions to ask your long-distance partner

When most of your relationship happens through a screen, conversation is the date. These questions are grouped from easy to deep. Pick a few, take turns, and try writing your answer before you hear theirs: it keeps you both honest.

1. What's the best thing you ate this week?
2. Which song have you had on repeat lately?
3. What's something small that made you smile today?
4. If you could teleport here for one hour, what would we do?
5. What's the silliest thing that reminded you of me recently?
6. Which of our inside jokes is your favourite?
7. What's your go-to comfort show right now?
8. Morning person or night person this month?
9. What would your perfect lazy Sunday look like?
10. What's something in your city you want to show me?

1. What were you like at fifteen?
2. Which friend knows you best, and why?
3. What's a skill you've always wanted to learn?
4. What does a good day at work look like for you?
5. What's a belief you've changed your mind about?
6. What's the kindest thing a stranger has done for you?
7. Which family tradition do you love most?
8. What's something you're quietly proud of?
9. What scares you more than it should?
10. What do you do when you need to recharge?

1. When did you first know this was serious?
2. What did you think the first time we met in person?
3. What's your favourite memory from one of our visits?
4. What's a habit of mine you secretly love?
5. When do you miss me the most during the week?
6. What's one thing I do that makes you feel loved from far away?
7. What's the hardest part of the distance for you right now?
8. Is there anything you wish I asked you about more often?
9. What's a compliment you've never said out loud?
10. How do you like to be comforted after a bad day?

1. What's something you've never told anyone?
2. What do you think you'll regret not doing?
3. When do you feel most like yourself?
4. What does "home" mean to you now?
5. What's a fear you have about us that we should talk about?
6. How do you want to handle arguments when we can't hug it out?
7. What's the best advice you've ever been given?
8. What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?
9. Which part of your life feels unfinished?
10. What does support look like to you when you're stressed?

1. Where do you see us living in five years?
2. Which city could you see us growing old in?
3. What should our first home smell like?
4. What's one trip we have to take together?
5. What does a normal weekday look like once we live in the same place?
6. Which tradition from your family do you want us to keep?
7. What should we save up for first?
8. How should we split the chores? (Be honest.)
9. What would our first dinner party menu be?
10. What's one thing you want us to be known for as a couple?

1. …have breakfast in my city or dinner in yours?
2. …take a 12-hour train or a 2-hour flight with three layovers?
3. …only text in emojis or only send voice notes for a week?
4. …relive our first date or skip ahead to the next one?
5. …a beach meetup or a snowy cabin?
6. …wake up early for my morning or stay up late for my night?
7. …plan every detail of a trip or go with no plan at all?
8. …get a handwritten letter or a surprise delivery?
9. …matching tattoos or matching pajamas?
10. …be the big spoon or the little spoon?

Pick one question a day and answer it on your own time; it's a lovely way to stay connected when your schedules don't overlap. TwoFrames has question decks built in: you each answer privately, and both answers are revealed only once you've both replied.